The Virtuous Woman

If you are like many women who strive to be The Virtuous Woman in Proverbs 31, we know that this can be a tall order to fulfill, read below.  However, God honors a woman who is working toward being a Proverbs 31 woman.  We many be able to fulfill every aspect of this scripture, but we can definitely work on one area of our character at a time.  We can develop a prayer life, time management, being a servant, a good financial steward, a nurturing mother, an entrepreneur, helpmate to your spouse (or if you are single, then prepare yourself in these areas for your God chosen husband), taking care of your body, develop the fruit of the spirit, etc.  We serve a God who is patient, faithful, kind and loving.   Become faithful over what you already have.  God knows our character flaws, and he is so willing to help us in these areas.  If you are striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman, don’t be so hard on yourself, instead take one character and develop that to the best of your ability, then go to the next.

The process is like the analogy of a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly.  It is a process of inward change.  The life cycle of the butterfly is called metamorphosis, which means change or transformation.  All butterflies go through four separate states in their life cycle:  the egg, caterpillar, pupa (chrysalis), and finally the butterfly.  God will take us through stages in our lives to become the best and most beautiful workmanship that he created, but first we must go through all the stages.  Surrender your all over to God and allow him to create and re-create you inwardly, where people will see your outward beauty and strength of a Proverbs 31 Woman.  Our journey to being and becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman does not take a week, month or year, it is a lifetime of practice and work.  Nevertheless, before long you will have accomplished this phenomenal Proverbs 31 Woman and delight in the Lord.

The 10 Virtues of a Proverbs 31 Woman

A good, supportive, trusting wife is a blessing to a man. A woman who partners with her husband, who is reliable and looks out for his interests, gives a man a security that is greatly lacking in the world.  She is worth more than a substantial paycheck. To bring in the metaphor, wisdom provides the same benefits—it is worth more than money, you can always trust it to make the right decision, and it provides blessings for those who have it.

The wife of Proverbs 31 isn’t afraid of work. She gets up in the morning and gets things done. In the time of Solomon, this involved making fabric and sewing clothes, but verse 27 certainly applies directly to us today—taking care of our responsibilities is a characteristic of wisdom.  Another characteristic of wisdom is the grace to help others. The Proverbs 31 wife ensures that those under her care receive what they need—food, clothing, protection. And she is able to serve others out of the excess of her work and the leaning of her heart. She has so internalized her role as a provider that it extends past her immediate responsibilities and into the community.  Beyond that, she’s savvy. She’s educated about the world and the world of business. She knows how to use her skills to provide for her family, and she’s not afraid to go interact with that world, whether it be as a merchant or a buyer. She knows how to use her strengths to her best advantage, and she fully realizes how valuable her efforts are.

The Proverbs 31 woman not only knows her worth, she knows her responsibilities to herself. She would not be able to provide for others if she neglected her needs—both physical and spiritual. She makes sure her appearance reflects her respected position as an influence in her community. Her greatest strength is her wisdom—her accurate judgment about the world and her influence in it. And she is quick to share the wisdom she has gained to encourage others to reach their potential.

She knows that, as a partner in her marriage, she has a tremendous influence on her husband’s ministry. She can integrate her life—both domestic and professional—with her ministry in such a way that her husband has the freedom to serve. In fact, her reputation is so established, that it bleeds off onto him.
The Proverbs 31 wife is a fierce provider and protector for those she cares about. She is wise to the ways of the world, but lives by the wisdom of God. As in the rest of the Proverbs, these specific examples provide a metaphor for the larger truth. How any individual woman exemplifies these characteristics will depend on her situation, gifts, and abilities. The key is in verse 30, just as it is in the beginning of Proverbs, in 1:7…But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

1. Faith – A Virtuous Woman serves God with all of her heart, mind, and soul. She seeks His will for her life and follows His ways. (Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 31: 29 – 31, Matthew 22: 37, John 14: 15, Psalm 119: 15

2. Marriage – A Virtuous Woman respects her husband. She does him good all the days of her life. She is trustworthy and a helpmeet. (Proverbs 31: 11- 12, Proverbs 31: 23, Proverbs 31: 28, 1 Peter 3, Ephesians 5, Genesis2: 18).

3.  Mothering – A Virtuous Woman teaches her children the ways of her Father in heaven. She nurtures her children with the love of Christ, disciplines them with care and wisdom, and trains them in the way they should go. (Proverbs 31: 28, Proverbs 31: 26, Proverbs 22: 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 18: 16)

4. Health – A Virtuous Woman cares for her body. She prepares healthy food for her family. (Proverbs 31: 14 – 15, Proverbs 31: 17, 1 Corinthians 6: 19, Genesis 1: 29, Daniel 1, Leviticus 11)

5. Service – A Virtuous Woman serves her husband, her family, her friends, and her neighbors with a gentle and loving spirit. She is charitable. (Proverbs 31: 12, Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20, 1 Corinthians 13: 13)

6. Finances – A Virtuous Woman seeks her husband’s approval before making purchases and spends money wisely. She is careful to purchase quality items which her family needs. (Proverbs 31: 14, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 14: 22, Numbers 18: 26)

7.  Industry – A Virtuous Woman works willingly with her hands. She sings praises to God and does not grumble while completing her tasks. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 16, Proverbs 31: 24, Proverbs 31: 31, Philippians 2: 14)

8. Homemaking – A Virtuous Woman is a homemaker. She creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and guests. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. (Proverbs 31: 15, Proverbs 31: 20 – 22, Proverbs 31: 27, Titus 2: 5, 1 Peter 4: 9, Hebrews 13: 2)

9. Time – A Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She works diligently to complete her daily tasks. She does not spend time dwelling on those things that do not please the Lord. (Proverbs 31: 13, Proverbs 31: 19, Proverbs 31: 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 16: 9, Philippians 4:8 )

10. Beauty – A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth and beauty. She has the inner beauty that only comes from Christ. She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and the lives of her loved ones. (Proverbs 31: 10Proverbs 31: 21 – 22, Proverbs 31: 24 -25, Isaiah 61: 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 – 6).


Brief Summary of Proverbs 31:10-30

 10 – rare, precious
 17 – energetic 
 24 – enterprising
 11 – trustworthy, treasures 
 18 – discerning
 25 – poised, prepared 
 12 – beneficial
 19 – industrious  
 26 – wise, gracious
 13 – earnest
 20 – benevolent
 27 – careful, active
 14 – foresighted
 21 – provident
 28 – praiseworthy
 15 – diligent
 22 – elegant
 29 – distinguished
 16 – prudent, progressive
 23 – influential
 30 – godly
 31 – honored



Bible Gateway Description of a Virtuous Woman

Read Proverbs 12:4, 18:22; Ruth 3, Titus 2:3-7, 1 Peter 3:1-4

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